Elaine C. Pereira Articles

 

2/2017

 

SociaI Isolation in the Elderly

 

There are many wonderful advantages of being over 50: Retirement on the horizon. Less responsibility for young children-delightful but exhausting and more. As the 50s extend into the 70s and especially 80s however, statistically medical problems and debility increase. Besides the complex issues that befall seniors, another significant but, often, unidentified problem is social isolation. … Continue reading

 

1/30/17

 

New Years Resolutions


http://www.familyaffaires.com/new-years-resolutions-success-bail/

 

 

 

 

12/11/16

 

Emotional Detachment in People with Alzheimers

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2016/12/dementia-care-emotional-detachment-in-people-with-alzheimers.html

 

 

12/11/16

 

Time to Heal over Christmas Time

 

http://bit.ly/2gR9RFs http://www.familyaffaires.com/time-to-heal-over-christmas-time/

 

 

11/10/16

 

The Impact of Hearing Loss on Dementia/Alz

 

Even a significant hearing loss doesn’t cause Alzheimer’s, but social isolation and withdrawal do contribute to dementia.

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2016/11/the-impact-of-hearing-loss-on.html

 

 

10/28/16

 

Life Can Be SO Unfair!

 

We all experience tragedy, but this story is just sad.

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/life-can-unfair/

 

 

9/10/2016

 

Dispelling Dementia’s Myths

 

You might be surprised to learn a few facts and aging myths too…

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2016/09/dispelling-dementias-myths.html

 

 

8/31/16

 

Resilience Trumps Tragedy

 

The true story of a womans survival after a trifecta of crushing losses!…

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/resilience-trumps-tragedy/

 

 

July 2016

 

Sloppy Speech

 

We Need to Take Lessons from the "My Fair Lady" Playbook
Diction is dying! Professor Henry Higgins would flip if he rematerialized today in a world laden with such sloppy speech…

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/sloppy-speech/

 

 

6/11/2016

 

Tips for Families of a Loved One with Early Stage Alzheimer’s

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2016/06/dementia-care-tips-for-families-of-loved-one-with-alzheimers.html

 

 

5/26/16

 

Being a Grandparent Reminds Us of Being a Grandkid

 

Most of us have delightful, fond memories of our grandparents; maybe we still do if theyre still living…

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/grandparent-reminds-us-grandkid/

 

 

4/4/2016

 

Why Is There a Stigma About Using Hearing Aides?

 

What is it about hearing aides that says: "I'm handicappedor I'm old" or "Shout at me?"

 

In my view, there's a vicious circle in which every player in the ring bares some culpability for the stigma associated with hearing aides.

 

The public's opinion of hearing difficulties corrected by hearing aides is definitely less positive and less accepting than that of reading difficulties corrected by glasses.

 

But seniors bare some responsibility for this negative image too. A few of the auditory challenged older adults whom I know refuse to wear their hearing aides in public because "People will see them and know I can't hear."

 

Duh! This excuse is ridiculous! "People" will hear that same senior say "What?" over and over again and know they cant' hear well anyway!

 

Someday I may need hearing devices and if I do, mine will be conspicuously obvious in purple with flashing lights.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1URbt3m
http://www.familyaffaires.com/why-is-there-a-stigma-about-using-hearing-aides/

 

 

3/5/16 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

Looking at Alzheimer's Through the Eyes of Someone With Dementia

 

"I feel like a non-person."

 

Recently a daughter witnessing her mothers bewildering decline from Alzheimers shared this revelation:

 

"I feel like a non-person.Her mother said frankly."

 

Despite efforts to reassure her mother that she was loved, important and real, the woman continued to perceive her own essence as absent.

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2016/03/alzheimers-education-looking-through-eyes-someone-living-with-dementia.html

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1XbmjP0

 

 

3/2/2016 On Family Affaires FamilyAffaires.com

 

Is Your Aging Parent’s Behavior Changing?

 

What should I watch for in advance of a parental crisis to be more pro-active?

 

It's a great question with even better good intentions. Taking off the protective blinders of denial and ignorance before you're swimming in physical and financial disasters may not literally avert any of them, but at least conscious thought has been given to the multitude of What-Ifs.

 

Age brings challenges for everyone. Be observant, honest, informed and fair. Don't fight it or run and hide. Embrace the reality of your parent's evolving needs and make the best decisions possible in their behalf and with their input.

 

Read the entire article: http://www.familyaffaires.com/is-your-aging-parents-behavior-changing/

 

 

1/15/16 On Family Affaires FamilyAffaires.com

 

Giving Up The Car Keys

 

Some Creative and Humorous Interventions

 

We are acutely aware of the perils of driving drunk or distracted by texting. But driving with any impairment, including reduced reflexes, poor vision, waning cognition and judgment, can have tragic consequences.

 

If your loved one is a menace behind the wheel, you have a moral obligation to keep them and everyone else on the road safe.

 

Read the entire article for these strategies:http://bit.ly/236rnJ9

 

Hide the keys  ~ Lie ~ Re-Paint the Car

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/giving-up-the-car-keys/

 

 

12/15/15 On Family Affaires FamilyAffaires.com

 

Despite the Drama, Family is Important

 

Even if yours drives you crazy, be grateful you have them. I miss mine especially at Christmas.

 

If you want to selectively saw off branches of your family tree, you're not alone. And upcoming holiday get-togethers artificially force otherwise feuding family members into the same space compounding seasonal stress.

 

Family dynamics can be very difficult and strained. If you can make a go of it and include everyone once or twice a year at the holidays, especially Christmas, go you! If, conversely one selfish person habitually destroys a blessed fun event, consider alternating the years you include them.

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/despite-the-drama-family-is-important/

 

Read the entire article: http://bit.ly/1Qqu2cr

 

 

11/16/15 On Family Affaires FamilyAffaires.com

 

A True Story of Genuine Thoughtfulness

 

I speak at community groups often to help advance Alzheimer's awareness. The audience's contributions are welcomed, sharing their heartbreak and heartfelt experiences. And they have a lot to say.

 

An incredibly sweet albeit misguided gesture.

 

Helen closed her eyes and hugged the cat tight. Carol smiled inside and out. They stayed a little longer with Helen and then said goodbye, Helen still smiling.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1MO8H9R

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/a-true-story-of-genuine-thoughtfulness/

 

 

7/24/2015 On Family Affaires FamilyAffaires.com

 

The Many Faces of Hardship

 

You cant tell what someone is going through just by looking at them!

 

The lady was of average height, build, maybe 55. She had no remarkable habits, like pacing or facial grimaces. Honestly I never would have noticed her had she not abruptly walked over to me and asked "Are you alone?"

 

I was about to form a vague but socially appropriate reply when the tall man quickly intervened.

 

"Just ignore her. She has Alzheimer's" as he cradled her by the arm and gently but firmly pulled her back. His words were sharp but his tone was apologetic.

 

I waved him off with Its okay, really. I understand.

 

Despite brutal emotional and physical pain, (my brother) Jerry always maintained a gregarious nature as he chatted with the cashier, bank teller, paper boy and waved at the mail lady.

 

You never know what they are going through. People can't look at me and know that my wife died or I have terminal cancer.

 

Read the entire article: http://bit.ly/1DaAz5N

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/the-many-faces-of-hardship/

 

 

5/12/2015 On Family Affaires FamilyAffaires.com

 

Home Care vs Assisted Living

"One Size Does NOT Fit All" ~ Part 1

 

When to Consider an Assisted Living Facility ~ Especially for Someone with Dementia

 

No matter what issues befall your loved one, as you waffle back and forth about continuing care at home or an assisted living placement, it all comes down to one single factor:

 

SAFETY! Yours and Theirs

 

Relinquishing the care of your parent to someone else, or several "someones" as in the case of an assisted living placement, is not without pause. There is likely an exhaustive list of reasons, factors and roadblocks that have brought you to this point. But the reality is you've gotten to the brink of a disaster waiting to happen because continued in-home placement just isn't working.

 

Before you regret not having acted sooner, move your parent. The next article will help in the process of selecting the right placement for your parent. Ha! I did everything right and it still got screwed up! But despite the incredible drama that befell my mother, I really did do everything right; it wasnt my negligence that nearly killed her.

 

Read the entire article: http://bit.ly/1Ee5jMQ

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/home-care-vs-assisted-living-part-i/

 

Home Care vs Assisted Living

"One Size Does NOT Fit All" ~ Part 2

 

What to Look for in Selecting an Assisted Living Facility

 

The elegant and welcoming lobby was designed for you, not for the person to be residing there. You can expect that it should be inviting and clean; the absence of either speaks volumes. But otherwise a beautiful lobby just means they hired a good decorator.

 

Facility shopping: “There are Tours and Then There are TOURS!”

 

Waiting Lists. You can rule places in or out with some strategic phone homework

 

Cost. Phone discussions as well as internet research, can shed light on a facilitys cost structure.

 

Read the entire article: http://bit.ly/1EuQI0D

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/home-care-vs-assisted-living-part-2/

 

 

4/22/15 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

Tips for "Simpler" Communication For People With Alzheimers

 

KISS – an acronym for “Keep It Simple, Stupid” – was used as a design concept by the US Navy in 1960. The KISS principle states that most systems work best if they are kept simple rather than made complicated, therefore unnecessary detail should be avoided.

 

And how might this concept apply to your loved one with dementia?  The "It" in KISS is communication. Keep "Language" Simple, Stupid.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1JuJFrQ

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2015/04/kiss-tips-for-simpler-communication-alzheimers-dementia.html

 

 

3/12/1/5 On Family Affaires

Parenting Your Parent

 

Unnatural but Sometimes Necessary

 

Our parents' tendency to camouflage the reality about their health may eventually implode revealing a multitude of medical problems and safety concerns. Suddenly you're juggling conversations with doctors while at a soccer game or arranging for caregivers while in line at the grocery. And maybe you're doing it all long distance.

 

Tips For Parenting Your Parent: (Look at:)

 

Denial ~ Needy Behaviors ~ Long Distance Care

 

Hire an independent agency to clearly evaluate your parent's status and implement a plan accordingly.

 

Health issues and family dynamics are too complex and varied for universal solutions. The point is to balance your responsibilities to your family and your aging parent or you will be the one in need of health care

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1xdMbMW

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/tips-parenting-parent/

 

 

3/6/15 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

Our Pets Get Dementia Too

 

No disrespect to anyone affected by Alzheimer's Disease, but our pets can exhibit dementia changes too.

 

My wonderful, old lap cat Snoopy started howling about three years ago when he was sixteen. It was a new and obnoxious behavior for him. Irritating. Annoying. Loud. Awful.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1B8XMgv

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2015/03/our-pets-get-dementia-too.html

 

 

2/2/2015 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Why I Got Tested for Alzheimer’s. Why You Might Not

 

In my professional opinion, as an Occupational Therapist with a concentration in neurology, I question the role that one Alzheimers gene can play. There are too many other complex and overlapping variables.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1vQtdka

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2015/02/why-i-got-genetic-testing-for.html

 

 

1/13/2015 Why I Got Tested for Alzheimer’s ~ Interview On Shape Lifestyle

 

http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/why-i-got-alzheimer-s-test

 

http://bit.ly/1yhmcqa

 

1/28/15 On Family Affaires

 

Caregiving Advise for Squabbling Siblings

 

Are You A Real Adult? "It's an ironic twist that a parent who once refereed their squabbling kids, one day becomes the center of squabbling adults."

 

If another twist of irony, the dictionary definition of Adult is: emotionally and mentally mature. I know many "adults" who act anything but "emotionally mature" when they are in a verbal war of words with their sister/brother over the decisions for their parent.

 

A real adult would honor the parent by making the decisions they would make for themselves if they could. And a real adult can "agree to disagree" with another, even a sibling and set aside petty differences for the bigger picture.

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.familyaffaires.com/caregiving-advice-squabbling-siblings/

 

Also posted on MariShriver.com 3/2/2015 http://MariaShriver.com

 

 

12/23/2014 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Best Christmas Present Ever! For My Mom with Alzheimer's

 

Just before Christmas, 2004, Jerry conceded defeat. Cancer's invading marauder cells had finally won despite his valiant efforts to fight back undergoing months of brutal chemo!

 

Mom and I lived two hours apart in Michigan while Jerry was in hospice in Georgia. Somehow, someway, I had to get my mother to Atlanta to see her son before his window of lucidity closed forever.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1GtdR68

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2014/12/the-best-christmas-present-ever-for-my.html#more

 

 

12/5/2014 On Family Affaires FamilyAffaires.com

 

Hosting the Holidays?
5 Tips to Help Someone with Dementia Enjoy the Event Too

 

What should be a wonderful, festive, family event over an abundance of food, timeless traditions and reminiscing, can implode in seconds without careful planning. It's not running out of mashed potatoes that will define the holiday as a success or a failure, but your loved one with dementia agitated, confused and overwhelmed that may.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1pjSPm2

 

http://www.familyaffaires.com/5-tips-help-someone-dementia-enjoy-holidays/

 

http://mariashriver.com/blog/2014/12/5-tips-to-help-someone-with-dementia-enjoy-the-holidays

 

 

12/3/2014 Be Thankful at Thanksgiving No Matter What!

 

 

10/21/14 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Do Brain Games Really Help Prevent Dementia?

Scientific Evidence Does Not Support the Brain Game Claims, Stanford Scholars Say

 

While it is true that the human mind is malleable throughout a lifetime, improvement on a single task like playing computer-based brain games does not imply a general, all-around and deeper improvement in cognition beyond performing better on just a particular game.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1pAQAWl?

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2014/10/do-brain-games-prevent-alzheimers-dementia.html?bit.ly/1pAQAWl?

 

http://stanford.io/1pAsrit

 

3/9/14 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Three Important Facts About Alzheimers Everyone Should Know

 

Increasing funding for Alzheimers research is crucial! Also crucial is having an accurate understanding of the facts about Alzheimers. No disrespect to the already well informed, but the general public needs a better knowledge base to recognize the subtle, often excused-away symptoms of dementia issues.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1uxw1Oo

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2014/09/3-important-facts-about-alzheimers.html

 

 

August 6, 2014 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Six Simple Steps to Quality Dementia Care
A Respect Your Elders' Approach to Quality Dementia Care

 

Despite numerous and ever increasingly bizarre situations where my mother adamantly insisted that something surely misplaced – was stolen - or her version of an experience - if it happened at all - was unlikely, my well intended but misguided approach was to try to convince her of the "truth".

 

Although my mothers reality was anything but real,
Moms perceptions of her world were real to her!

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1ydGJtl

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2014/08/6-simple-steps-to-quality-dementia-care.html

 

 

July 12, 2014 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Perception, Loss of Memory and The Brain
How Do We Remember And Why Do We Forget

 

Traditional Memory: To shore up important or quasi-important information like your bosss spouses name, repeating it either silently or out loud helps to reinforce memory and recall. If that memory is not used again it certainly will fade away in the future. Your new garage door code however if reused repeatedly, solidifying the memory in your cortex.

 

Sounds benign enough, right? Not so fast! Some recollections of relatively little significance are embedded in cement and may never fade away.

 

Enter, the Adrenaline Rush: I can vividly recall every detail right down to the boring, sage green institutional wallpaper in my OB/GYN's office the day I found out I was having twins. That was 36 years ago in real time and yesterday in my brain.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1kRT7J2

 

http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2014/07/perception-loss-of-memory-and-brain.html

 

 

June 8, 2014 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Maintaining Connections
As Your Loved One Declines, Show Up; Don't Give Up!

 

It is emotionally draining to watch your loved one with Alzheimer's slowly fade away, helpless to change the outcome. There is very little validation or reward for you from them.

 

As painful as their blank stare, mumbling, or who are youis to experience or hear, having a better understanding of the disease process and why this occurs, is critical to acceptance and continuing to visit.

 

Show Up, Dont Give Up!

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1oZrvqe

 

http://www.alzheimersrhttp://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2014/06/maintaining-connections-as-your-loved.html eadingroom.com/2014/06/maintaining-connections-as-your-loved.html

 

 

April 24, 2014 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Multitasking And Memory Skills
The Two May Be Mutually Exclusive

 

My six-year-old grandson is consistently better than I am at the memory games! We have played enough times by now that I know it's not a fluke and I am not letting him win either. But why? An article written by Matt Richtel entitled Multitasking Takes Toll on Memory, Study Finds may shed some light on why I'm less adept at childhood memory games and other short term attention tasks.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1mMp35M

 

http://bits.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/04/11/multitasking-takes-toll-on-memory-study-finds/

 

 

April 15, 2014 On The Alzheimer’s Reading Room

 

Accepting Alzheimer’s
Why Being Cloaked in Denial Doesn’t Help.

 

There are many diseases and medical conditions that we fear: a diagnosis of cancer, heart attack, stroke and many more of course. Most conditions have at least some treatment or lifestyle management options, however there are exceptions. And one of those "exceptions" is Alzheimer's.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1hFRXm7

 

 

March 17, 2014 I Will Never Forget, Award Winning Dementia Memoir By Elaine Pereira Achieves Top Amazon Rankings

 

[Detroit MI, March 26, 2014]  I Will Never Forget, the multi-award winning dementia memoir by Elaine Pereira, recently took the number one position on Amazon in its genre!

 

Elaine Pereira has written the one book on Dementia that no one else could write. She is a daughter who has lived the Dementia drama, an occupational therapist who understands the neurology and an unwavering caregiver. Pereira's exclusive perspective has enabled her to produce a one-of-a-kind book about Dementia that encompasses several uniquely special approaches.

 

While most authors unveil theirs stories chronologically, Pereira's memoir unfolds in dynamic and creative time shifts, revealing her mothers decline in a "then and now" format, transitioning beautifully between past and present. "I'm thrilled, ecstatic and humbled," Pereira stated, "to have finally achieved this prestigious milestone and also grateful to all the supporters who made it happen."

 

Like most authors, I have worked tirelessly to promote my Mother's Story as it is Everyone's Story. Truthfully my mother's journey through dementia was difficult, bewildering but also touching as those who have walked in my shoes understand so well. Alzheimer's is a horrific disease that robs us of our loved ones and "I Will Never Forget" is a tribute to caregivers everywhere. "As I donate from each book sold to further Alzheimer's awareness and research, rising to the top spot helps me help others."

 

While Dementia is a serious disease not to be trivialized, Pereira believes there are humorous one-liners and anecdotes in all of life's dramas. She blends her mother's Dementia induced tragic mishaps, episodes of illogical thinking and agitated behaviors with tasteful hilarity as well as her ridiculous but funny remarks.

 

The end result is a book about Dementia that is unlike any other book on Dementia ever written. "I Will Never Forget" A Daughter's Story of Her Mother's Arduous And Humorous Journey Through Dementiahas received numerous, high-level industry awards.

 

http://ow.ly/uZftR

 

 

February 6, 2014 http://its-not-all-gravy.blogspot.com/2014/02/a-mythical-interview-with-betty-ward.html

 

A MYTHICAL INTERVIEW WITH BETTY WARD

Photo Courtesy of Gluten-Free Canteen where you can find lots of gluten-free recipes.

 

Thank you, Maryann for inviting us here today and for the refreshments. First I'd like to just give a quick introduction to my mother. In 1945 she graduated with a BS in chemistry then went to work at Upjohn CO in Kalamazoo, MI where she met and married my father, Wayne Ward.

 

They had three children before Betty went back to school for her masters in education. The "Life is Good Years" continued until my father's stroke in 1995, followed in 2004 by both his death and my brother Jerry's, and finally my mother's rapid decent into dementia.

 

From the ashes of her eventual passing aroseI Will Never Forget.I hope you enjoy meeting my mother in this brief interview in which I pretended to be a reporter.

 

 

January 22, 2014

 

IN THE NEWS Elaine Pereira, Author Of I Will Never Forget, Concurs With A Comprehensive Approach To Help Delay And Manage Dementia

 

Author Elaine Pereira believes activity, both mental and physical, is a primary key to delaying the onset of dementia. Pereira has written the one book on dementia that no one else could write. I Will Never Forget "A Daughter's Story of Her Mothers Arduous and Humorous Journey Through Dementia" is a dementia memoir that present her mothers story told from three perspectives as a daughter, as an occupational therapist and as a caregiver.

 

http://www.freepublicitygroup.com/release_elaine_pereira_dementia_book_jan114.html

 

http://ow.ly/sPv82

 

Elaine Pereira, speaker, Certified Dementia Practitioner and Caregiver and author of the award-winning dementia memoir, "I Will Never Forget", promotes a 5 pronged lifestyle approach to help delay the onset of dementia to manage its effects.

 

[Detroit MI January 22, 2014] A recent video on CBS Morning featured CBS News chief medical correspondent Dr. Jon LaPook and Dr. Rudolph Tanzi, professor of neurology at Harvard Medical School and director of the Genetics and Aging Research Unit at Massachusetts General Hospital.In their opinion, clinical trials of medications to treat Alzheimer's have failed because they target the early stages when in fact researchers now know that by the time someone is symptomatic for Alzheimer's Disease, they are well past

 

 

January 22, 2014

 

Lessons I Learned About Life From Someone Approaching Death

 

"You were so polite," I said to my brother Jerry as he hung up the phone from yet another solicitor.

 

Technically one of the three calls that weekend had been a survey, but regardless Jerry was very pleasant with the anonymous person on the other end.

 

"And why not?" He replied rhetorically. "They're just doing their job."

 

Please read the entire interview at: http://bit.ly/1eeEFqG

 

January 1, 2014

 

Five Reasons to Keep Records on Your Loved One with Memory Issues

 

Being a Parent to your Parent is an uncomfortable responsibility. We are accustom to being cared for by them, not the other way around. But if your parent is experiencing memory issues, ignoring or excusing them puts them at risk on so many levels, the most significant of which is their safety.

 

As difficult as it can be, keeping tabs on them, their medications, appointments, whether they still drive or not (another dramatic issue with significant safety ramifications), etc is critical. It's important to keep a log, journal, post-it notes, or the techies might prefer their iPhone, but no matter how you accomplish it, do it! Posted on the Alzheimers Reading Room

 

Please read the entire article at: http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2014/01/five-reasons-to-keep-records-on-your.html

 

 

Author Interview with Elaine Pereira by Kristina Aziz

 

Read the entire interview at: http://kristinaaziz.blogspot.com/2014/01/author-interview-with-elaine-c-pereira.html

 

Book that changed your life:  Honestly?  Mine!

 

Why any human should plunk down cash money for your book: (I'm chuckling reading the question and trying to think of a funny comeback equal to the task, but... )

 

My book is not a side splitting humorous tale of a crazy dog like Marley and Me; I get that. But it is not a dark, foreboding, depressing, boring story just about someone's tough life at the end as they're old and gray anyway.

 

I Will Never Forget is a powerful, true account of a kind, brilliant, trailblazing woman who earned her BS in chemistry, of all things, in post WWII and then uprooted as a single woman to move across state lines for a new job!

 

We are an international world today, but it was very, very different in the late 1940s. This memoir is rich in descriptive detail, character development and presents honest and sometimes humbling stories of a family in various stages of crises alternating with happiness and calm.

 

Book Review of: I Will Never Forget by Kristina Aziz http://kristinaaziz.blogspot.com/2014/01/review-i-will-never-forget-by-elaine-c.html

 

 

December 20, 2013 My Interview by Lorraine Reguly.

 

And a verysincere and complimentary review! Thank you so much Lorraine.

 

The complete interview is on her/this site: http://lorrainemariereguly.wordpress.com/2013/12/20/my-interview-with-the-author-my-review-of-i-will-never-forget/

 

 

December 6, 2013

 

Buckets And Other Lists: A Guest Post from Award-Winning Memoirist, Elaine Pereira

 

Please read the entire article at: http://lorrainemariereguly.wordpress.com/2013/12/06/buckets-and-other-lists-a-guest-post-from-award-winning-memoirist-elaine-pereira/

 

Buckets And Other Lists:Writing A Book Was NEVER On My Horizon

 

II'm one of those annoyingly organized people: a multi-tasking extraordinaire who makes lists for practically everything. When my mental To-Do list tops three items, I grab paper and a pen and scribble away…..

 

November 2013

 

Christmas Magic Is Returning Through Moms Spirit.

 

Please read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/1eKq6Of

 

My mom was an amazing woman.I was incredibly fortunate to be her daughter, a fact I clearly did not appreciate during my feisty teenage period.But except for a few ugly years of my mouthy disrespect when she couldn't do anything right, Mom and I were best friends!

 

My mother was truly one of a kind: a petite, poised, beautiful lady with a hint of rebel spirit thrown in. In the shadows of World War II, she earned her Bachelors Degree in chemistry and later a Masters in education. Mom made Christmas magical for the family.

 

 

October 20, 2013

 

Five Alternative Ways to TalkWith Someone Living With Dementia.

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2013/10/five-alternative-ways-to-talk-with.html

 

 

September 3, 2013

 

Alzheimers Confounding Contradictions

 

Read the entire article at: http://mariashriver.com/blog/2013/09/alzheimers-confounding-contradictions-elaine-pereira/

 

 

August 2013

 

A BIG thank you to Tom Matt from Boomer's Rock at http://cosozo.com/radio-show/boomers-rock for the great radio interview time.

 

http://cosozo.com/radio-show-episode/i-will-never-forget-daughters-story-dementia

 

 

July and August, 2013 My 5 Part Series:

 

How to Communicate With Someone With Alzheimer's
When Traditional Words Fail, Try Connecting Through The Senses

 

Endear For Alzheimer's: http://www.endearforalz.com

 

Dementia and Alzheimer's are devastating conditions that rob us of our loved ones. One of the most tragic outcomes is their dissolving memory of events, stories, faces and conversations that connect us as humans. It's heartbreaking when reciprocal conversation wanes into oblivion. I, and many researches, maintain that for the most part, our loved ones are still in there and it's up to us to find the connection that "speaks" to them. Communication takes on many forms and in the subsequent five articles, I will expand on how to connect through the five senses: Touch, Vision, Hearing, Smell and Taste. Elaine C. Pereira, MA OTR/L CDP, CDC

 

When Traditional Words Fail, Try Connecting Through The Senses, is a 5-part series written by Author and former caregiver; Elaine Pereira. We will post each new article in her series on Friday for the next 5 weeks. Her articles are powerful and extremely helpful if you are trying to communicate with someone with Alzheimers or dementia. Please read all 5 articles as they are best used in conjunction with one another. Click the links at the end of the article to read all parts of this dynamic series. Carlos Barrios, Founder Endear For Alzheimer's

 

Part 1: Touch 7/28/2013 http://blogforalzheimers.com Talk More With Touch and Less With Words

 

Part 2: Sound 8/2/2013 http://blogforalzheimers.com Speak More With Sound and Less With Words

 

Part 3: Aroma/Smell 8/9/2013 http://blogforalzheimers.com The Power of Aromas as Positive Memory Triggers

 

Part 4: Taste 8/16/13 http://blogforalzheimers.com Use Your Tongue To Communicate Through Taste

 

Part: 5: Vision 8/23/13 http://blogforalzheimers.com A Picture Really Can Say a Thousand Words

 

 

Tuesday August 6, 2013

 

People with Alzheimers Say The Darnedest Things

 

http://bit.ly/15FdE0y

 

Collectively navigating the uncharted waters of caring for a loved one with Dementia is always a work in progress. The only predictable aspect of Alzheimer's is its unpredictability.My mom was different from one day to the next and typically within the same day. Her patchwork quilt of reality was a blend of her "real past and her created present.

 

Read the entire article at: http://bit.ly/15FdE0y

 

Its up to us to adapt to our loved ones with Dementia wherever they are at any given moment: past, present or future. By Elaine C. Pereira Alzheimers Reading Room

 

I Will Never Forget
I Will Never Forget A Daughters Story of Her Mothers
Arduous and Humorous Journey Through Dementia

 

 

Wednesday July 24, 2013

 

This is a recent post on Ionia Martins blog ReadfulThingsBlog.com

 

DEMENTIA'S SILVER STARS ~ A FEW THOUGHTS FROM ELAINEPEREIRA

 

JULY 24, 2013 BY IONIAMARTIN

 

I would like to welcome my good friend and fellow author back to Readful Things. Elaine has been doing a tremendous amount of work promoting her book and teaching others about the field of Alzheimer's research. She is also a very kind person, who has been there for me through my own struggles having a family member who is going through this disease. If you have ever wondered about what this cruel disease can do to a person, a family and the patient themselves, Elaine's uniquely personal perspective may very well be of use to you.

 

Dementia's Silver Stars

 

Tragically as our Baby Boomer generation matures into the Silver Stars, some of those "stars" dont shine as brightly as they use to, mostly due to Dementia. Alzheimer's specifically is a devastating condition that robs us of our loved ones.

 

It also allows for some of the most bewildering events, remarks and experiences that defy logic, reasoning and reality. Since I have literally walked, actually more like trudged, in the shoes of a caregiver to my mother with Alzheimer's, I am able to share the humor with the heartache; explore the mystifying with the plausible; describe the agitation and the calm..

 

Read the entire article at: http://readfulthingsblog.com/2013/07/24/dementias-silver-stars-a-few-thoughts-from-elaine-pereira/http://bit.ly/13EN0SS

 

 

Tuesday June 4, 2013

 

And again its been a great week for this Michigan author, this time in Dayton Ohio!

 

You can see them by clicking on the links or go the Media Page and see the videos there.

 

Fox 45 A wonderful opportunity with Megan on Fox 45 http://fox45now.com/shared/news/features/morning/stories/wrgt_vid_2085.shtml

 

And Living Dayton An awesome interview opportunity with Vanessa! http://bit.ly/13FucAO

 

 

Tuesday May 28, 2013 on Fox 2 Detroit with Deena Centofanti!

 

I so appreciate every opportunity to discuss my memoir, my intent to donate to Alzheimers research and help others know they are not alone!

 

 

 

May 28, 2013

 

WXYZ Detroit, Channel 7 invited me to the studio for a taped interview about my memoir I Will Never Forget and discussion about dementia and aging issues.Getting miked up for the interview.

 

Channel 7 Detroit with Malcolm Maddox shown Sunday 6/2/2013

 

http://www.wxyz.com/dpp/about_us/as_seen_on/dealing-with-a-loved-one-who-suffers-from-dimentia

 

 

May 7, 2013

 

5 Tips for Finding an In-Home Caregiver or Home Care Facility

 

"Finding a responsible in-home caregiver, or a reputable Home Care Facility, can be a difficult and delicate undertaking," says Pereira, "but its critically important to follow these steps whether you use an agency or hire your own."

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.newsreleasewire.com/NRWire/Releasedetails.aspx?id=44137

 

 

May 7, 2013

 

A Tribute to Great Moms Everywhere

 

My older brother and I were fortunate to have a great mom. Growing up, I thought my mom was amazing until my obnoxious teenage period, when she couldnt do anything right.And, except for those years of my mouthy disrespect, Mom and I were best friends.

 

Read the entire article at: http://mariashriver.com/blog/2013/05/a-tribute-to-great-mothers-everywhere-elaine-pereira

 

 

April 25, 2013

 

Interview with Jerry Kenney from WYSO, Dayton Ohio

 

http://wyso.org/post/i-will-not-forget-author-recounts-mothers-journey-through-dementia

 

 

 

 

 

April 26, 2013

 

The Story Behind the Poem

 

Have you ever looked up Alzheimer's Disease" in the dictionary?

noun, Pathology. a common form of dementia of unknown cause, usually beginning in late middle age, characterized by memory lapses, confusion, emotional instability, and progressive loss of mental ability.

 

In 28 sobering, apathetic words, a disease so catastrophic is defined with such ridiculous impassion.

 

Read entire article at: http://mariashriver.com/blog/2013/04/the-story-behind-the-poem-elaine-pereira

 

 

April 17, 2013

 

Subtle Signs of Mothers Dementia

 

We all need to be circumspect of subtle changes in personality, balance, judgment, memory and anything else uncharacteristic in our friends and family. Be Proactive and we can be less Reactive

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2013/04/subtle-signs-of-mothers-dementia.html

 

April 4, 2013

 

Thank you Tron Simpson @ KCMN-AM News/Talk http://1530kcmn.com "for todays" lively and live interview opportunity.

 

And Bill Martinez on Cable Radio Network http://crntalk.com/ for his great questions and sharing his personal empathy. I look forward to his invitation to return for a longer, afternoon show.

 

Plymouth Observer & Eccentric

 

Tough road: Book tells of mother's dementia http://bit.ly/11iQRDw

 

Written by Julie Brown Staff Writer

 

Author Elaine Pereira of New Boston wrote "I Will Never Forget: A Daughters Story of Her Mothers Arduous and Humorous Journey Through Dementia." Pereira's mom, Elizabeth Ward, was nearly 87 when she died in 2011. She began to show signs of illness in 2005, her daughter said.

 

Pereira's book came out in May 2012 and is a first book for the retired school occupational therapist who worked with special needs children. The story needed to be told, Pereira said. Its a daunting responsibility. Her mom was in a facility, but Pereira lost her brother and dad the same year, and made the decisions on her moms care. She agreed issues of dementia and elder care are key as the baby boomers age. "It's not a European lifestyle here where family takes care of family. Caring for family can be quite an undertaking," she said. She's pleased with good reviews and overwhelmingly positive reaction to her book. Pereira (www.IWillNeverForgetBook.com) hopes to cover costs and donate to Alzheimer's research efforts so my girls dont have to write a book about me.  jcbrown@hometownlife.com

 

 

March 31, 2013

 

YouTube Video Book Trailer of I Will Never Forget http://youtu.be/wv-TS3QeC6M

 

Thank you so much to Scott Lorenz, President,and his superb team at Westwind Communications for the poignant promotional Book Trailer of my memoir.

 

March 30, 2013

 

Guest Post on Bookingly Yours Blogspot

 

Please check out the wonderful guest post on Bookingly Yours. Thanks Jenai I so appreciate the opportunity for such a lengthy promo spot, links and the new YouTube Trailer as well.

 

http://bookinglyyours.blogspot.com/2013/03/guest-author-elaine-c-pereira.html

 

February 28, 2013

 

Rick and Steve from Net Castle Studio Audio

 

This is a "wonderful" interview with well thought questions from both gentlemen touching on respect of our elders, how dementias journey impacts both the individual and the family and so much more!

 

Interview:  http://netcaststudio.com/elaine-pereira-author-of-i-will-never-forget/

 

February 20, 2013

 

An Academy Award for Caregivers

 

Caring for someone else on a long-term basis is both a powerfully rewarding and an emotionally draining task. I know; like many other people, Ive been there. If you are a friend or family member, you do it out of love and caring for someone who deserves your support. And typically you do a better job because you have a relationship with and a vested interest in the person in your care. But it comes at a price, doesnt it?

 

Read the entire article at: http://mariashriver.com/blog/2013/02/an-academy-award-for-caregivers-elaine-pereira

 

January 16, 2013

 

Dementia Caregiver's Survival Strategy ~ The Humorous Side

 

Apparently my mom was adamant that someone had stolen her pants. Out of sight on the other end of the phone, I rolled me eyes. Someone stole her pants. How ridiculous, I thought.

 

Not to make light of memory loss issues and exhaustive caregiver efforts to patiently redirect an agitated and/or bewildered individual, but dementia has a funny side too.Some stories border on unbelievable were they not so real.

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2013/01/dementia-care-survival-strategy.htmlorhttp://bit.ly/U143tR

 

December 23, 2012

 

Christmas Memories Past and Present

 

My heart felt thoughts are with all of the caregivers, families and friends of anyone with Alzheimers as you approach the present Christmas and also for those, like me, who have already lost someone and have only memories of Christmases past.

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2012/12/christmas-memories-past-and-present.html or http://bit.ly/YCZg5b

 

 

November 24 2012

 

Seatbelt Controversy: "Safety or Restraint"

 

After more than 35 years working as an occupational therapist, originally in an adult rehabilitation setting but for most of my career as a school therapist, I have received considerable training in maintaining client safety.

 

Seatbelt Safety Therapists perceive and use seatbelts as safety belts. Belts secure physically challenged children and adults in wheelchairs so they can be transported safely or mobilize themselves without the risk of falling out and/or over.

 

Seatbelt Restraint By striking contrast however "seatbelts," those same innocuous strips of webbing referred to so affectionately as safety belts, are perceived as unacceptable restraints in some populations, mostly non-ambulatory adults with disorienting dementia!

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2012/11/seatbelt-controversy-safety-or-restraint.html or http://bit.ly/WL1Bd6

 

 

November 6, 2012

 

Alzheimer's Changes - It's Not Just Trains They Forget

 

I will never forget that train ride, Mom said. That was really something.Ultimately, however, she did forget it, like virtually everything else.

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.alzheimersreadingroom.com/2012/11/alzheimers-changes-its-not-just-train.html

 

 

October 29 2012

 

WGVU Morning Show with Shelley Irwin

 

http://www.wgvu.org/wgvunews/?id=tmsdetail&sty=18719

 

 

October 24 2012

 

Book Goodies with Deborah Carney

 

http://bookgoodies.com/elaine-c-pereira/

 

 

October 24, 2012

 

McNights Long Term Care & Assisted Living Magazine
What a Professional Caregiver Should Never Forget

 

Regardless of your role providing assistance to another, never forget that the screeching, defiant woman whom you are helping to dress is someone's daughter, mother or best girlfriend. The man who desperately needs assistance with oral hygiene but has his teeth clenched tight refusing your help, might have been an administrative CEO.

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.mcknights.com/what-a-professional-caregiver-should-never-forget/printarticle/264397/

 

 

September 11, 2012

 

The Reviewing Shelf
Pragya Sharma

 

“I believe it is extremely difficult to write a book like this. Being so close to your loved one, watching them die and then to be able to pour it out into words needs extreme courage.

 

Read the entire review at: http://wp.me/p21FJY-19l

 

 

August 18 2012

 

The News Herald by Andrea Blum

 

Elaine Pereira's relationship with her mother was similar to that of many other daughter's. But the last few years of her mother's life were anything but typical. Those years tested the strength of their bond and taught Pereira the true meaning of unconditional love. Her mother Elizabeth Ward suffered from dementia during those years, and Pereira found herself dealing with a person who very often was unlike the loving, accomplished mother shed' known growing up.

 

Read the entire article at: http://thenewsherald.com/articles/2012/08/18/life/doc502e6379328e8788203208.txt

 

 

August 2,2012

 

Third Age: Health Close-Up:
I Will Never Forget

 

On Christmas morning, 2009, I prompted my mom to join me in the kitchen so that we could begin dinner preparations. Company cauliflower was a long-standing holiday favorite. I got out the coveted recipe card and put it in the recipe holder that Mom had cross-stitched for me years before. I noticed that she was staring at the recipe. Then it hit me: Mom couldn't process what the recipe instructions were telling her to do. It was mind numbing! This woman had taught high school calculus and now couldn't read a simple amount like a half cup of milk and know what to get out or how much to pour.

 

Read the entire article at: http://www.thirdage.com/caregiving/health-close-up-i-will-never-forget

 

 

June 2012

 

A Caregivers Journey

 

Growing up, I thought my mom, Elizabeth Ward, was amazing. That was, of course, until I ventured into the obnoxious teenage period, when she couldn't do anything right. Except for those three or four emotional roller coaster years of my mouthy disrespect, Mom and I were best friends. Now, my best friend is gone. Alzheimer's has claimed yet another victim, choking Mom's kind, talented spirit to dust, last July 8, 2011.

 

Read the entire article at: http://mariashriver.com/blog/2012/06/i-will-never-forget-caregiving-journey-elaine-pereira

 

 

May, 2012

 

"MLive:" Kalamazoo Gazette on-line paper Mothers Day Tribute

 

For Mother's Day, Kalamazoo native shares tale of mom's struggle with Alzheimers, focuses on happier times.

 

http://www.mlive.com/opinion/kalamazoo/index.ssf/2012/05/for_mothers_day_daughter_share.html